Life Learnt Well

Life, remember to do it your own way.  For as long as you live, you are you, so be yourself. Always

Although everyone boasts about growing up in a big family, that was not the case for me. I thought about it all over and over again. And every time someone looked at me with surprise and yes, a happy one when I mentioned the two brothers, two sisters and two little ones I had, I thought I am not okay. They are just family. At least that is what I thought. Just a small group of people God gave to each of us to learn how to live in this wide world every time we find ourselves in another village, town, or city for every reason you can think of, marriage, school, and people. We are always going to be surrounded by people as long as we are alive. What people do not know is how lonely you can get being in a group of people. It gets so busy that you cannot find your own self-but then what do people know?

The Mysteries: Loneliness, Love or A Promise

Then guess what, isolation begins. You want to understand clearly, see clearly and not every other person matters anymore. You go to school, you make new friends but you just do not trust yourself enough with that decision because you understand how noisy it gets in silence. However, this time everyone notices how quieter and distant you get. Leave that out. The moment you realize, it is too late and no one is around you anymore. I guess that’s life.

Life is a beauty when there is peace, joy, love and understanding but I never got to understand that as I was trying to bring people back to my life after they all left saying I was pushing them away. Maybe they were right. Perhaps they were not. I learnt if someone loves you, stay, no matter what. But they left and I spent half of my life trying to bring them back. Was it worth a shot? No. Some did come back but for the same reasons they left and this time, I had to let them go.

So much in life that the reason people part when they meet, are likely to part again. Why. Because they only focus on reuniting, remaking the memories rather than taking it from where it all went sour in that relationship and solving issues or clear misunderstandings from there.

What then

Life is truly a beautiful journey when we embrace ourselves and live authentically, surrounded by the ones who appreciate and understand us. It all starts with self-love, allowing this love to radiate and touch the hearts of those around us. Remember, not everyone will truly comprehend who we are, and that’s okay. So, let go of the worries and concerns about being understood by everyone. As the wise words I once read state, “You are not meant for everyone, and everyone is not meant for you.” Embrace your uniqueness and let your essence shine brightly.

I once came across a saying that goes, “Why make life more complicated?“

Missing somebody ….call

Wanna meet up…. invite

Wanna be understood…. explain

Have a question….ask

Don’t like something….say it

Like something…state it

Want something….ask for it

Love someone… tell it

Nevertheless, darling, I called, invited, explained, asked, said, stated, told and asked for. When they said nothing, I stopped. I thought I was wrong in asking for something. They should have told me that it was fine, they did not have it, and it was something that I had to wait for. I think I just needed assurance from those around me rather than who I was.

Allow me to share with you…

• Explain yourself to someone who is open to understanding, most people are not.
  
• Ask for anything you need and that person can offer as long as you know. Do not tempt people.
  
• Ask that question and get the answer but if that person does not want to be asked, how will you find out? That person simply tells you, I do not need you. Stop asking and leave. People who love you will clear misunderstandings even those you show by raising your brows or when startled to say something because they want you to know them, they will be open, they will let you in. I know some need a push, do not try so hard though, and love is never that hard.
  
• When you like something, need something, love something or someone, say it, ask for it and tell them that you love it or them. It is never a guarantee that they will give, answer or love you back but you are at peace and are calmed than before. Moreover, when you do not get what you asked for, it is okay. It was not guaranteed anyway.

From me to you about this Life

I do not regret expressing my love to them. I regretted that it took a long time to understand that it is never a guarantee that you get what you want in life just because you want it. And yes, the best in life do come, they just take time to get to us. I hope patience and hope will not kill you in waiting.

To the times when I thought, I needed to look in certain ways to be noticed, I do not regret. Time taught me to take care of myself even after they were gone. I just hope you will focus on important matters and love yourself too and very much. Take care of yourself for you matter more than anything you think of right now.

About the family: Family is really nothing more than a group of people we were given to live with and learn how to understand different kinds and types of people present in the world. It does matter to have someone who understands you, reaches out to you and loves you unconditionally.  (However) My point is, family matters, but never let your brothers and sisters end up being just people you are related to. May them become your friends, admires, confidants, secret keepers, best friends, best cousins and your own best crew in life, success and everything. Not only your blood but people you can call my people.

To wrap things up in Life

The good thing is anyone can become a family. Do not worry if you were born alone.  Connect to people, live with people and talk to your neighbour sometimes no matter how cold he or she seems, everyone has life in them and that means change is possible. And it might shock you to know who they really are inside out. Do not worry. Say hello next time.

I would want to say a lot now that my time is near. But may you remember, death is the only door to everlasting life. At least this is what I believe in learning about Jesus all those years I was alive. May you hope for everlasting life and learn about God, Jesus, heaven, and hell. How peaceful it is knowing someone Mighty is looking after you. Someone Holy, all-powerful and the Only God, is looking out for you ^ ^

How peaceful it is knowing someone Mighty is looking after you.
Someone Holy, all-powerful and the Only God, Love and life Himself, is looking out for you ^ ^

Karah

It will not kill you knowing about all that. So, from time to time, open your heart, mind, soul and spirit in devotion, and meditation and listen to what Nature, Life Himself, the Creator has to say to you. Call your loved one often, life is uncertain sometimes. Enjoy your hobbies and never be hard on yourself. Like a little baby, you were also born understanding nothing about you, your spirit, body and soul. Take time to understand your emotions, patterns, choices, feelings, behaviours and your journey. Remember, with your Creator, this journey is more clear and of less chaos. Begin a day with Jesus and live it through, that is faith.

It is peace and beauty we all can never fathom and we do not have to. Just Be.

Live well and enjoy life knowing you are the best being that ever happened on earth, just like the human next to you.

You are a miracle, be-live.

Never lose yourself, your fire, your childlike self in you and playfulness, for that is life. 

Farewell, my love.